ATTACHMENT and LOSS volume 1 by John Bowlby
John Bowlby’s groundbreaking first volume about Attachment was published in 1969. But it’s still required reading, if you want an in-depth understanding of Emotional Development.
Have you cried yet?
HAVE YOU CRIED YET? Adaptation is our superpower for facing life’s biggest challenges. CRYING Crying is useful, because at any age, crying allows us to transform; mad to sad, impatience to patience, emotion to feeling, sensations to thoughts, and ignorance to perspective – making us more attentive, thoughtful and gentler. This is the force of […]
What? Tantrums… at what age?! Why tantrums deserve our respect.
What? Tantrums… at what age?! Why tantrums deserve our respect. WILL Unfortunately, to tantrum is natural and normal for preschoolers. Tantrums are actually a very important mechanism of emotional development. If preschoolers are not having tantrums, AT ALL, that is a reason to worry. It’s a worry because we are all born with a strong […]
How to change chronic misbehavior without really trying!
First, forgive yourself for trying too hard and then turn your attention toward suffering. SUFFERING Whose suffering? Because as the adult in a kid/adult relationship, we feel significant suffering when there is chronic misbehavior. Chronic misbehavior will overwhelm our patience, confront our confidence, and challenge our moral decision making in the moment. Plus, misbehavior can […]
Why isn’t my kid more independent?
How promoting independence in our kids is counter-intuitive unless viewed through an Attachment lens. Attachment was first described by John Bowlby in the 1950s. He authored several big themes of Attachment; security, vulnerability, separation, and loss, over the next three decades by framing these within human development. I want to talk about emotional development as […]